EPIC FAILURE #1: Pushing formal reading lessons over extra read aloud time.
Let me explain! Being a former classroom teacher, I was convinced my daughter had to do formal reading lessons in Kindergarten and that she had to learn to read by 1st grade. First, this is false. Those are crazy and unnecessary standards and expectations. If you are baffled by his recommendation, then read Better Late than Early by Dr. Raymond Moore sometime this year.
My daughter really wanted to learn how to read. However, the process was a bit challenging at first. She loved being read to, and she loved “reading” to her stuffed animals and to her little brother, but the actual process of reading wasn’t clicking. What did I do? I started pushing.
For years, she knew her letters and sounds, but she couldn’t blend them together. Then when she entered first grade, the same thing was happening. She loved our read aloud times and wanted desperately to read on her own, but the process of reading kept eluding her. So what did I do again? I pushed more, and I purchased an even more expensive and more complicated reading programs.
Well, the story was the same in second grade. She was reading now but not at the level the teacher in me thought was acceptable. So I really began to push her. I added extra work and started looking for reading tutors. However when third grade rolled around, reading started to click for her and by fourth grade, my daughter was reading at a high school level.
Why was this an EPIC FAIL? Because she wasn’t ready for formal reading lessons. Instead of spending so much time doing long and tedious reading lessons, I should have just spent more time reading aloud to her. She loved stories, and she loved read aloud time.
This was an EPIC FAIL because I wasted so much time pushing her to read. It was an EPIC FAIL because of the tears we shed.
I should not have pushed. I should not have worried. Why? Fast forward 15 years. This same little girl is now an adult who is a prolific reader, who consumes 1,000 page books in a day, whose second home is the library, and whose kindle is just another appendage. In spite of me, she never lost her love of books (thank God) and when she figured out the actual process of reading, there was no limit to what she could read, do, or learn. Learn from my epic failure. Don’t push reading (and math) especially when they are young.
Friend, I have so, so, so many more epic failures to share!
You don’t want to miss this week’s episode!
I share my top five Epic Homeschooling Failures and my worst mommy moments. Instead of sharing with you advice on what to do this homeschooling school year, I thought I would share from the heart what NOT to do. It is my prayer that by sharing my heart-felt confessions and by revealing some of my most embarrassing moments, you will not only be encouraged, but you will walk away knowing you are not alone and that even when we “fail,” God can use our epic failures for His purposes. If anything, you will definitely walk away feeling like “Mom of the Year” after hearing my epic failures. Join me for this little coffee break. I must admit I got a little choked up on Epic Failure #5, but I got through it. I am hoping my transparency will give you courage, confidence, and hope to keep on keeping on!
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